When I met my future husband he thought marrying an Italian woman would somehow be good from a “man point of view”, after all Italian women are thought to be more traditional, passionate and can generally make good wives.
When we first met 12 years ago he was ecstatic. He loved the fact that he could learn to speak Italian, he could have free holidays in Italy, eat and drink lots of delicious bowls of pasta and mix with life-loving happy-go-lucky Italian people who always seem to know how to live life to the full.
In other words he thought he had won the lottery.
The novelty soon wore off when he realized that “there was no free lunch” so to speak. Everything comes at a price. So what are the pros and cons of marrying an Italian? Here is what you can roughly expect.
– Italian women love their food in fact they are obsessed with it. So yes, do expect beautifully cooked dinners with matching fine wines. Italians are born cooks and have a natural approach to food as they often learn to cook and love food from a young age.
– The fridge will always be well stocked up: Be assured, you are never going to starve: if she hosts a dinner party there will always be plenty of food as her main worry will be that there is never going to be enough. That’s why if she hosts for 4 people it will always be enough for 12.
– Italian women love being stylish which means looking good even only to pop out for a loaf of bread at the supermarket. How you look is very important in Italian culture. If you dress well you are more presentable, smarter and you look more reliable too.
Having said that Italian women feel entitled to x-ray their man before he goes out lecturing him on what to wear and how to wear it. In my case it is not just myself as even my mother puts her : “You won’t let him go out dressed like that, will you?!”
– They have family values: they love children, have strong family bonds and they generally make good mothers.
– They certainly enjoy their wine but they generally don’t get drunk for the sake of it. Wine is seen as an accompaniment to food not as something to have fun with. Italians basically don’t drink without food and while in many countries it is more socially acceptable in Italy it is frowned upon. So if you are going on a date with an Italian make sure you don’t slip up by getting drunk on your first night as she won’t be very impressed.
– No point arguing, no matter how well you do, she will often criticize your cooking: “Get out of the kitchen darling”! Even if you are just doing some prep work it will never be good enough. Sorry but this is true and this is me.
5) Italian women vibrate with passion, they are loud and easily excitable. My husband often blurts out: “please don’t shout!”. I often don’t care and carry on being what I am. I cannot help it and frankly I like it. If there is something I am happy with then I need to express it.
-As soon as you marry an Italian you become part of the big family: brothers, nonne, cousins and second cousins will come and greet you with dozens of kisses and firm handshakes and will soon be part of your life. They will do anything for you but beware, if there is something they don’t like they won’t hesitate to let you know.
Oh and you better know this: at the table they will never understand the meaning of the word NO and after the third helping they will still keep saying to you: “Mangia! Mangia”, EAT! EAT!